Hi Reader
I hope you've had a lovely weekend.
Something I've been reflecting on recently is the question of when is it worth raising an issue with your partner, and when is it better to just let something go?
After some reflection, here's what I landed on:
Only let it go, if you're going to let it go.
Meaning... no stewing over it, no righteous imaginary conversations, no adding it to a mental laundry list of grievances.
I think much of the time when we neglect to voice our concerns, we're doing so from a place of fear:
- We fear being invalidated, or told we're too sensitive.
- We fear someone's defensiveness.
- We fear that sharing our upset will lead to more distance and disconnection.
And these fears makes perfect sense, if historically that's been our experience.
But here's the thing: while it may seem like the path of least resistance to bury our hurts and hold onto some semblance of peace, the "peace" that we get from this strategy is not peace at all. It's tension and stress, buried under a façade of being fine.
So that's my reminder for you as you go into this week.
Only let something go, if you're really going to let it go. Otherwise, the most loving thing you can do — for yourself and your relationship — is to get honest and vulnerable, and share what's heavy on your heart.
Feel free to let me know how this landed for you — I read every response, even if I can't reply to them all.
Sending love & hope you have a beautiful week ahead,
Steph
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